1) Just because I'm a lesbian does not mean I am currently or continuously having sex with another woman. Just because you are straight does not mean you are currently having sex with a person of the opposite sex.
2) Just because I have come out as a lesbian does not mean I no longer have an interest in fashion. Lesbians can be fashionable too, contrary to popular superstition. In fact, I would argue that being a lesbian I have a doubly vested interest in fashion, because I am not only interested in clothes that make me look good, but also clothes that I think are sexually attractive. One could argue that I have an inside lane on the issue, because I don't have to ask what looks sexy on a woman.
3) I am not, in particular, angry. Being told that the "type" of person you are is always angry would be bound to make anyone less than civil. I would submit that most lesbians are not by nature any more angry then straight women, but that the perception that they are in fact so might make them angrier. I am as genial and well-natured a person as I ever was (which some may argue is not at all, but fuck them anyhow).
4) I don't hate men. I actually quite like men, I find them very relateable. They like several of the same things I do, myself included. Nor am I altogether opposed to the idea of having sex with a man. I've done it before and I refuse to be so sober as to rule out the future possibility of such occurring. Many men have traits that I actually find quite attractive, like strong will and frank honesty. That said, my preference is for women.
5) There's been this odd question asked repeatedly of me. That question is: why? Why am I gay? Why do I find women sexually attractive? No doubt some of you are reading this and thinking , "That's not an odd question." You would however find it quite hard to say why you are attracted to the opposite sex rather than to your own. Most of you would probably say something about that being the way it is supposed to be or the way it ought to be. Well, that's good and well, but that's not the way it is with me. I like women because when I look at them, when I talk to them, and yes when I got to bed with them, it just feels right. Things click that never clicked my whole life until I was with a woman. When straight people declare they are in love with a particular person, they say that they just know that that person is "the one". Well, I haven't had that particular feeling yet, but I feel something I imagine is very akin to that. When I have the full plump lips of a beautiful black woman pushed to mine it's as if everything in me is saying "getting warmer".
6) What do I look for in a woman? I think the number one answer to that is honesty. I want a woman who is honest with both herself and with me. I don't mean that as just what she says, but who and how she is in her daily life. I like, I have always liked, people who are confident, people who are strong both mentally and physically, and people who have interesting stories. How would I describe my ideal mate? She would have to have killer fashion sense, long strong legs and arms (I like to be held, what can I say?), a decent but easy to understand sense of humor, and the sort of life stories that captivate my attention late at night as we stare up at the ceiling, just being together.
Okay, so that was extra long and kind of involved, but I felt like after my first post people just didn't fully comprehend what I had meant. Hopefully now I'm a bit better understood. Maybe my *ahem* Princess Charming will read this and get back to me. I won't get my hopes up.
Love, BisaBaby
I like that, "Princess Charming". LOL. Maybe you should modify more, I don't think charming is really your style sista.
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